* This is part two of the above exercise and designed to help you understand how you use your body to express your different emotional states. Since these meanings vary and different moods can illuminate different meanings, the more often you do the exercise, the more you will get out of it.
Close your eyes, breathe deeply and relax…continuing from the previous visualization imagine yourself at the same party. . . but now the fat has melted off you; you are now your ideal size . . . Can you see yourself? . . . Can you feel yourself at your ideal size? . . . Notice what you are wearing …What do these clothes say about you? . . . What do you see from the perspective of being your ideal size? .. . Do you view the party with different eyes? . . . What or who do the people at the party see when they look at you? . . . How do you feel? . . . Are you sure of yourself or do you feel vulnerable? . . . How are you getting on with the others at the party? . . . Are there differences between how you interacted with people when you were fat and how you are getting on now? . . . Focus on the positive feelings coming up in you about your being your ideal size .. . Are you being seen as you? . . . Are you being admired for your body? Now see if you notice any disconcerting feelings about being your ideal size at this party? . . . Is there anything scary unpleasant about being this size? . . . Now I’d like you imagine that you are fat once again, still at this same party … Does the atmosphere change? . . . How? How do you feel within yourself? . . . Can you contact any feelings of relief about being larger again? . . . See what messages this fat you is sending out .. . Is there any way in which it helps you to be fat at the party? . . . Are there any conflicts you seem able to avoid? Are there some very private feelings concealed in the fat? .. . When you are ready, I’d like you to imagine that once again, at this party; you are your ideal size . . . How do you feel? . . . Allow yourself to experience the many complicated feelings you may have . . . Notice how you are in your ‘slim’ clothes and how you feel in your body . . . Do you feel you? . . . Particularly note any difficult feelings that come up for you in being your ideal size . . . See if you can pinpoint any feelings that might have made it hard for you to stay at this size in the past . . . When you are ready, turn to the questions below.
1. What emerged about you at your imagined ‘ideal’ size?
2. What fears came up for you about being slim?
3. What aspects of your personality are you currently suppressing that you imagine go with slimness?
4. How might you express those aspects now?